On a handful of occasions, when I was working in Vietnam, I’d find somebody waiting behind to talk to me after I had made my “Story of KOTO” speech to a tour group.
If I had pitched it just right and mixed enough laughs with enough lump-in-the-throat bits, then people would donate to the cause. Often too an after-talk visitor would want to speak to me personally.
Invariably they’d be old. Quite often they’d push their donation directly into my hand. On more than one occasion they didn’t understand the local money, or inflation or whatever. Their gift, which I am sure they thought was generous, turned out to be only a few pennies. It was gratefully received all the same.
But they’d stayed to talk to me for a reason. They’d say something kind in an oldies way. They’d thank me for the speech and tell me to “keep it up” and use words like “marvellous” a lot.
What they didn’t know, and what they couldn’t grasp, was just how easy it was. Their praise was nice to hear but unnecessary. Because what I did wasn’t hard.
You want to make the commute to work fun? Weave your way through a million scooters on the back of a motorbike. Want to find some motivation? How about 60 kids being put on the streets if you fail? Want to feel wanted and appreciated? Work with Vietnamese people.
I’ve always maintained that the hardest part to working for a living is not the work itself. It’s the grind. It’s knowing that your holiday is only four weeks a year. Or your days off number a measly two out of seven.
So now I am doing the hard stuff. The number one bus to work. The cold. The weekend heralded with a whoop on Friday night, only to be commiserated as “almost gone” by Sunday.
I remember when I first started my working life after college. I kept starting sentences with: “This summer I’m going to…”, before letting the line die as I remembered that this summer I’d be working.
I reckon it took me five years to be work institutionalised. To feel that two out of seven, and four weeks a year were not so much ok, as just the way it was and eminently do-able. Now I have to relearn the old work ethics.
And all of that is what I told the old dears who said kind things to me at KOTO. The nine to five (and the rest) grinders are the heroes.
It’s good to be home. It would be churlish to say that it feels tough. It’s not. Just more mundane. I’ve been spoilt.
Spoilt by the sensory overload of Vietnam and the lazy days of Nicaragua.
To take a positive from all of this: To anyone reading this who might have thought of volunteering overseas but reckon they couldn’t stick it….
Just do it. What you already do is harder. Volunteering is easy.
Voluntary Service Overseas details here.






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October 24, 2007 at 12:53 pm
Diehard Geordie
I worked for 45 years and thoroughly enjoyed myself for about 39 of them.
Until I found the right job, I kept on changing. If you are feeling that ground down and that your life is becoming mundane. Change it – you only get one shot at life, its not a rehearsal – so don’t wait for the ‘good days’ – make them all good.
Over to you.
October 24, 2007 at 5:09 pm
Abby
I’m lucky in that I really enjoy my job, and because I know that the work I do is appreciated by both my boss, my colleagues and the library members. This makes it a lot easier to deal with the Monday to Friday 9 to 5 (9-7 two days a week, urgh!). Although I still want to cry when the alarm goes off every weekday morning.
October 24, 2007 at 5:50 pm
minxlj
Steve, I meant to update you on the VSO situation – my application went in late Sept (wanted to wait for permission for references) – understandably they don’t have a ton of vacancies for graphic designers, so at the moment there’s nothing they can put me in for. But they said my skills are definitely wanted and they want to hang on to my application til February (or before, if something comes up).
Even then, there’s still the assessment day which is what I’d be most nervous about! Not sure what to do right now though, I know designers aren’t exactly top demand for charities, so a vacancy may not come up at all. Fingers crossed though, I’d love to work for them.
October 30, 2007 at 10:45 am
ourman
Mr Geordie. Spot on and I couldn’t agree more. Maybe I gave the wrong impression – the job is pretty good. It’s the getting out of bed that’s hard and getting used to the relative calm of home. For the record – I always preach the same advice.
Abby – you said it – it’s the getting out of bed that’s tricky. But a little bit of appreciation from your colleagues does help.
Minxlj. As regards the assessment day – all I can say is don’t try too hard. They want to know that you a) aren’t about to freak out if you go overseas and that you are basically a calm, well ordered person and b) that if you go, you aren’t likely to cry off and come home sharpish.
As regards the timescale, they said the same to me and then before I knew it I was off. All I can reccommend is that you give yourself a cut off point – beyond which you find another way to make it happen.
November 5, 2007 at 12:20 am
Diehard Geordie
Its ‘Mrs’.
Invest in a Teasmade (goblin do a good one) it wakes you up slowly as the tea or coffee starts to make about 6 minutes before the bell rings. And boy – do you appreciate that cuppa – before your feet hit the floor.
Glad you gave the wrong impression.
November 5, 2007 at 11:59 am
ourman
Ah, sorry Mrs Geordie. Whoops. Not sure how I got the impression you are male.
Teasmade? They really still have those? I remember my mum and dad using one for a while. A big old thing it was with a metal tank in the middle.
Not sure I’d have the discipline to actually clean it and fill it the night before.
But maybe I should take another look at them.